What is being defensive? Will you be labelled defensive if you are reacting to comments that you know that you do not deserve? Is it being defensive or you are just standing up to what you believe. Sometimes, I think people need to know when it's ok to say something and when it is not.
Lately, I have been facing with situations where people say things to my face without thinking of the repercussions. Am I supposed to just stand there and smile? or say something to defend myself and risk being labelled defensive? People hide their verbal attacks behind their 'kind intentions.... "I have to be mean to be kind" or "I meant well" or "I didn't mean it that way?" when you ask them to own up to what they say.... Maybe, I am defensive... hmmm...
Maybe I'm getting old. Older, meaning I'm set with my own rules and perceptions of the world and how people should behave. But again, can't blame me for voicing out my opinion. I believe that there are times when we can just ignore what people say about you. But there are times when you need to stand up for yourselves because no one else will do it for you.
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